well, the girl up there sounds like she had a bad experience and that guy was  real jerk to lose some control and and get so aroused. but I think that it is the nature of a guy to go for it after you get him past a certain point. Girls know this yet they take things to the point where they want and even though they know the guy is going to get super turned on, the girls will still play with fire and mess with the guys hormones. then when the guy responds the girl feels guilty and feels sluty and so she convinces herself it is date rape when really she instigated it and asked for it. I think that date rape is pretty much bs and that it is an accusation that people make to get rid of their own guilt.

I really can't stand the 'she was asking for it' theory. Even assuming that a girl does tease and does lead a guy on, no still means no. If the girl doesn't want to have sex but the guy does it anyway then it's rape. If the guy is so out of control that he can't stop, that makes him no better than an animal. Saying date rape is bs is like saying a woman has no right to change her mind, and if she does then the guy has every right to humiliate her.

Then let's not forget about the use of date rape drugs. It's enough for a woman to never ever let a man buy her a drink. I think the most prominently used one in the US is called Rohypnol, which is basically medication used for sleeping disorders. The guy just slips some into the woman's drink and before she knows it she wakes up in some strange place and it's obvious she's been raped. I think this has got to be the lowest form of rape (excluding kids) because the victim doesn't even get a chance to defend herself.

Get Fucked.

Well once in a while maybe rape does happen on a date. but then it is rape not date rape. but most of these cases are just some tramp feeling guilting of some teen that needs something to tell her mom so she doesn't have to take the blame for it. if this wasn't the case, the girls would call it rape and act accordingly but calling the police right away and pressing rape charges and the whole nine. date rape if another way to not accept personal accountabitlity. the girl above has several inconsistancies in her story and i think that probably what actually happened is that SHE let things go to far and then felt guilty after and blamed the guy and made him out to be more forceful than he was.

well I am sorry you have to attack me for my oppinion. If date rape is really rape then how come so many are not reported? I will offer my thought as to why. i think that  most are not reported because the girl knows inside that she is 1/2 reponsible for it and that she could have stopped or prevented it. she is ashamed that she let it happen and she is subconsciously mad at herself but conciously blames it all on the guy so she can live with it.

BS. It takes two to tango. A friend would not force you if not at all enticed to do so. You all want to blame it on everything but yourselves. Drugs, guys, oh and now society is raping you too? Come on, stand up and take responsibility for the things that happen. Stop persecuting these guys when it is ussually a mutual mistake. And when the guy is accused of this bogus type of crime, because of your guilt - it tarnishes his reputation, more than yours, once it’s out there, even if he is not to blame.

More times than not a woman loses her virginity to a monster that cares not if the woman is turned on and wants to continue.

I disagree with this in that I think MOST women do not lose their virginity in an act of rape. I do think that rape is awful like I said above but cowardly-guest-who-refuses-to-register made a valid point in the midst of all that hate and bull. I'm sure it's in a very small minority of cases but sometimes guys ARE wrongly accused of rape. By women who are jealous, who have been turned down, who have not managed to obtain what they wanted. These cases, while by no means the majority, do exist. And I feel sorry for them because a man who has been wrongfully accused of rape, even if he's the nicest guy on the planet, will have the toughest time getting any woman to trust him and believe in him. He'll probably hate women for the rest of his life. And maybe rightfully so. I wonder if that's what happened to VPWT.......

This is all total bullshit. People do not ussually lose their virginity to rape. And date rape is bullshit. If it was rape it would be called rape.

I agree. Date rape is just a card that women pull to get out of taking responsibility for doing something they are ashamed of.

How can you rationally say that every case of date rape has one reason, Guest?  There is absoloutely no way that 100% of all date rapes are just women who regret or feel ashamed about having sex with a guy.  I am sure that it happens, and I'm sure it happens more than we will know, but to say something like that is stupid, neglectful, and the exact reason why so many people don't take women seriously when they say this. While women who do that are horrible women and they need to learn how to accept responsibility and the consequences for their actions, and all they do is make it so that the real victims get accused of crying wolf.  It isn't worth turning a blind eye to all of the people who claim date rape, because there is nothing that we can do in this world that is more wrong than not take every one of those claims as bogus.  I can not imagine how it must feel to be a girl that was raped, and then on top of the trauma of that, having to know that everyone thinks I'm just a lying whore who fucks and regrets.   No one in this world should have to go through that, and it's sad that other women can be so selfish and emotionless to do this to other women.

And to the guy who says that date rape would be called rape if it was rape...umm..date RAPE, see where they call it rape?  They then use the word DATE in front of it as a sub-category of RAPE.  Because, date rape by definition is different than some guy grabbing you while you are jogging and raping you in the bushes.  Date rape is done by someone you have a reason to trust, and mostly involves a guy who you possibly had strong feelings for.  I can not even understand how any rational being can even put up such an invalid statement, nor how any of you can put up such an invalid arguement.  It sickens me to think that you males over there can possibly not care about someone doing that to a girl, and just chalk it up to "She said no but she really wanted it" or "She said yes and she just regrets it now".  Unfortunately, due to the private nature of sex it will always come down to a he said she said....but my goodness. None of you are omnipresent, clairvoyant, or psychic mind readers.  If you were not there then you truly do not know, and the only way to find out is to have an impartial investigation to get to the truth.  As hard as it may be to find the truth buried in two peoples lies, there is no way you can go into a situation like that with any preconceived answers, as every single situation is going to be different.