Last Post: The wait time after a breakup should be equal to the duration of the relationship prior to the breakup.

Last Post:  i agree with you all that there has to be something other than stonking good looks but if they are not attractive to begin with you aren't going to notice them and then as the days/weeks/years roll on you do need to share things other than a phsyical attraction, so after much talking bollox i come to this answer YES IT IS POSSIBLE TO FIND SOME ATTRACTIVE BUT NOT BE ATTRACTED TO THEM

Last Post: As of not too long ago, now every bisexual female I have ever known or been friends with, has cheated on their significant other. All the bi girls I know are all non-jealous. Also, they all have cheated on one or all significant others. I think perhaps bi people have a different concept of commitment. Perhaps, since every lover is going to be merely 1/2 of the two genders a bisexual desires, 100% devotion is impossible or unlikely? Whatever the root cause, I suspect that the lack of jealousy and the propensity of bisexuals to cheat are very much related.

Last Post: Why do girls go for jerks? Seriously, I have so many guy friends that are wonderful people and who would make any girl happy, but they can never keep a girl. They always get the shaft and the girls leaves him for a jerk....Any guys want to rant about this? I don--apost--t date jerks, and I feel like I--apost--m one of the few girls who doesn--apost--t. My boyfriend is a truly wonderful person, and it amazes me how girls never saw it in him....

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Last Post: I'm not sure I'd want to be with a guy who had been with too many chicks - would always kinda worry about some STD or baby popping up out of the woodwork. It's always good if you can COUNT and NAME your past partners.

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Last Post: We’ve incorporated it into some of our sex play. We’ll watch a movie together or we’ll look at pictures and discuss what we each like about that particular picture, what turns us on about it and what doesn’t. It used to bother me when my hubby looked at it. I used to take it personally, as if it were a replacement for me. Now I realize that it only helps enhance things when we use it.

Last Post: My first long distance relationship worked, souly because we talked alot, always saw eachother on weekends... i think it made it better, we’d wait all week and the sex would be amazing on the weekend. Eventually moving in together ruining everything. I Personally find alot of men to be clingy... No, we dont have to talk everyday, No i dont have to see you everyday. You dont need to know where Im going, its none of your business. I keep trying to have relationships with men who live in the same city, but they call everyday or conviently show up at places where they know i’ll be... So i lean towards the men who live in other nearby cities. Currently in another semi longdistance relationship. He’s not much to have a conversation with, but he’s good in bed and well endowed. However there will be times where we dont see eachother for about 3 weeks at a time, and being that I KNOW im not gonna marry this guy, So i do have a guy on the side. ... So thats my expirence

Last Post: not sure I’ll be moving in just yet. Right now, I’m pretty much spending a ton of time with him, making sure things are all good before taking that big of a step. Don’t want it moving too quickly and then regretting not taking time to "smell the roses" so to speak

Last Post: At school a few years back. Were just friends in class sort of thing...talked occaisionally until this year and things just kinda blossomed into something much more.

Last Post: lies to him/her to get them into bed fucks then forgets etc first time was drunken uneasy instantly forgettable second time was sober gave an all star performance went out with her for two years still good friends

Last Post: current guy is like THE best kisser I’ve ever been with. He really enjoys it and can’t get enough...north and south.

Last Post: got to love those silky undies

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Last Post: See, I don’t get this... If I want something, then I want it, whether it is obtainable or not. The fact that I can’t have it doesn’t make it better in any way. I remember when I was a teen this girl - she was pretty hot and I wasn’t really interested in her. She kept on after me and after me. Dropping hints with my friends how much she wanted me. So I decided sure why not, she’s cute. Made it obvious that I was interested in maybe having something with her... and she never spoke to me again. WTF? I don’t get this "thrill of the chase’ thing. If we want each other, let’s stop dancing around each other and just get it on, you know?

Last Post: I think this sometimes has to do with people wanting what they can’t have. There’s one guy I started hanging out with this summer that I’m very attracted to, but he has a girlfriend, and I wonder if him having a girlfriend makes me find him more attractive.

Last Post: well of course I’d try to get a look. =)

Last Post: Iggy, that’s great to hear. It’s good that you have a relationship where you can talk about important stuff like that. Talking about it makes it more of an issue the two of you can work on together, rather than a battle that you have to fight.

Last Post: it seems to me that it’s lust that gets everything going. surely there has to be a physical attraction for any relationship to progress beyond a friendship. i had a guy friend that i had known for years. he lives in my neighborhood and we went to school together. one day he invited me back to his house and he asked me to have sex. even though i had never been attracted to him in that way i gave it a shot b/c we’d been friends for so long. the whole thing was a disaster and it lead to our friendship ending soon afterwards. friendship alone sure wasn’t enough to get the sparks flying!

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Last Post: I am definately hoping for the traditional way of things. We’ve talked about it, agreed that it is the plan...but no ring yet.

Last Post: The hugs, quiet walks in the moonlight, holding hands, cuddling, good conversations, quiet moments together, spending time together with my children, to name a few activities are all more important than how far or fast a person would go. I have actually dumped a girl, because she went to fast.

Last Post: Ahhh..so..geez..how do you avoid telling people?

Last Post: My wife is 6 years younger than me. She was 18 when we first started going out and she loved being with an older guy. I would get her into the bars and clubs I was playing in and she was amazed that I had my own place and that I would always pay for our dates. True love knows no age but it is important that the person be of legal age. My hat is off to alntaf95 for his faithfulness and loyalty.

Last Post: after: all i need is your money to sustain mebefore: diamond earrings

Last Post: MT...that’s fantastic! We all learn the hard way...in most instances. Glad to hear all went well...

Last Post: Lol. MT--exclaim--...........hey Bostonn, the garage is cheating - even if the door is open--exclaim--

Last Post: Whendiscussing your sexual past with a partner, or potential partner, whatdo you leave out? What would you prefer that they leave out?

Last Post: That wasn--apost--t me Bostonn.................it was her--exclaim----exclaim----exclaim--...............besides, always blame somebody else.

Last Post: i think this happens to all of us eventually either on purpose or accident

Last Post: bi racial relationships i think are more accepted in europe than in the usa

Last Post:  Suzannai c u know of Gaia, kool

Last Post: well fuzzy... I--apost--m sure there are plenty of guys out there that wouldn--apost--t be thrown off by that so go for it :P

Last Post: lust and love are confusing

Last Post: when and if u have a fuck buddy, just make sure that is all it is,

Last Post: not really a date, a hitch hiker, stopped for a bite, had some words and i didnt need to listen to it, so i left

Last Post: Even with that explaination, there--apost--s only one car I would cream over anyway - and if he--apost--s got it, my attention goes to the car, not to him - it--apost--s happened before much to the guys dismay. I like my men, and I like my cars, just not necesarily together. The car doesn--apost--t make a guy hot, or hotter - to me it--apost--s not about what they have, it--apost--s about who they are.

Last Post: Younger guys want older women because they want a mama. I am almost 41, and the majority of men who hit on me are between 21 & 35, never married, and some still live at home. They think I will take care of them (like I do my children), feed them, nurture them, be their maid, their sex goddess, and because I--apost--m divorced, I must have money so I will be able to support their poker/golf/video game habit while they live in my house, eat my food, and --quote--borrow--quote-- gas money while working a deadend job. I think not. Younger men are good for only one thing: looking at. Give me a guy whose 40-something, has a steady job for 20 years, own his home, and is completely independent, can clean like a pro, cook basic food, and know the difference between lights/darks/cold/warm cycles, and I will show you a real man.Used to go for the former, but now totally in love with the latter.

Last Post: I was in this situation when married... I would want to talk things out, but he would shut down or just walk away while I was in the middle of sentence. Usually, it was --quote--I thought we were done--quote-- or --quote--I don--apost--t feel good right now. We--apost--ll talk about it later--quote-- (which never came).My sweetie and I talk things out all the time. When we argue, we don--apost--t go to bed or end it until it is resolved. Sometimes, it can get really heated, but as long as we keep talking, and trying to get the other to see our point of view, we always resolve the issue.My sweetie--apost--s favorite saying is --quote--I don--apost--t have ESP, I have ESPN. Just tell me in plain english what you mean--quote--. It can lead to some arguements, but we always talk it out and have go to bed happy. We--apost--ve never done the --quote--make up sex--quote-- thing though. We haven--apost--t really had that big of a fight yet. I--apost--m sure when it happens, the sex will be fan

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Last Post: Coming from a waitress - most times, it--apost--s women who are terrible to servers, not men. Around here, the men are the nice ones who are very personable and the women who run a server like a dog and talk to them pretty much the same way. (it--apost--s not just me either, it--apost--s all the girls I work with, and the guys too) Get me, give me, I want, bring me...never a please or thank you. They--apost--re servers, not servants. *sigh* sorry, ranting.However, my mother did always tell me the same thing. =)

Last Post: An ideal relationship is one where you can completely be yourself (guilty pleasures and all) without fear of being ridiculed, belittled, put down, humiliated, disrespected, or neglected for speaking your true feelings/opinions.This person is someone who you trust with every secret, desire, and wish. They are the person who you see hanging on to you if you were to fall off a cliff. This is the person who you can trust to help you if you ever need help with body functions (could you give your spouse/SO an enema or change their colosopy bag?). This person you see loving you when you are old, wrinkled, toothless, and incontitent, and you - them. The ideal relationship is one of complete trust, unconditional love, strength, and respect. There is true and complete commitment in the ideal relationship. I hope that everyone has a chance at something that special and wonderful. I believe I have finally found it in my life, and I am not going to allow my pride or selfish wants ruin the second be

Last Post: Hmm, you all are taking people away to other places, in order to have preferences fulfilled, I have to admit, it--apost--s very nice (especially the boat idea), but i--apost--d say Rodeo and me should hit my place, it--apost--s a little off from town, the neighbours can--apost--t hear anything no matter how loud it gets [;-D] You can set the temperature the way you want to, you can switch from dry to wet in a shower, or pool, you can light scented candles in order to add that sensation. Leave the windows open to hear the leafs of the forest in the wind. and in you own place, you know your territory, so variety in location and position would be a given already.

Last Post: I would aggree with ny_bri, any lost relationship is easier to overcome with distance inbetween .. i have continents and months between me and my ex--apost--s and I get along great with them (i just hope they don--apost--t get along great and found a club to kick my ass;)) But they appear to be happy with it. I see them every time i come back and it seems to be all good times

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Last Post: Iused to be that way, till I got hurt to the max and ended up putting upa proverbial wall that makes people earn even the first chance withme. Not fair to them, but safer for me. Would be muchbetter to have a happy medium.

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Last Post: I dont go in for the maintenance part of relationships it is a north mareican thing. Share and share alike I say.

Last Post: Aww Woodrow--exclaim-- There was I looking forward to the pics MT suggested--exclaim--(And yeah, considering your earlier comment about living in Europe and never having seen strippers, well I--apost--ve only been 18 for a few months, so I guess that--apost--s predominantly why.) (Oh, and on a minor note, say --apost--peelers--apost-- to a British person, and they (should) associate that word with the police, who are nick-named --apost--peelers--apost-- after their founder Robert Peel - there--apost--s some history for ya--exclaim-- Got slightly confused for a moment when I read your post therefore--exclaim--)

Last Post: I--apost--ll go with the friends before more, simply because how do you know there is more unless you can be their friend? It kinda goes with living with eachother before marrage. I agree with that too, because some people are just impossible to live with. I have moved in with girlfriends before and if they are the kinda person that wont give you space and just have dumb ass habits like turning your bed into a closet... fuck I hate that. My fiance is like that. I can--apost--t get into bed without getting a hair straightner or blow dryer up my ass. So ya, you have to know what your getting yourself into before you commit to anything. The only exception to the rule is, Your hot, lets fuck--exclaim--

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Last Post: I got a sticker from a blood drive that said --quote--Im a giver, are you?--quote--:DIm totally a giver, but i like getting htings ya know?

Last Post: Yeah...he keeps telling me how great, sweet, wonderful, generous, thoughtful and all that I am. I keep telling him --quote--I--apost--m not with everyone--quote--. Hopefully he realizes how special that treatment is. I--apost--m not too friendly and nice until I know ya. I--apost--ve set myself up and gotten hurt by being too open too soon too many times.

Last Post:  I would think it best to tell the new guy your still seeing others without going into detail - I believe if this new relationship waas going to be THE LOVE OF YOUR LIFE -- you would know by now-True love comes fast and hard and you--apost--ll know it when you see it - But to not allow him the freedom of seeing others while you are seems unfair to me-If yiou dont tell he may mnot want to chance losing uyou and so may not dare to see others By implication you are holding him hostage to you and denying him the chance to maybe meet his LOVE OF HIS LIFE.-- Sorry if youy covered this issue already as my girl called and wants me again so i had to rush and didnt really read alll the previous answers -- will reread and comment next time im here -- Glad to have you aboard BetsyjunWelcome to DBP -- cum often

Last Post: True. =) Lots of places on campus that--apost--d be perfect for such encounters and so many others. Like the steps of main hall, at night, in the oval. Or, better yet, during the day while everyone is in class. That--apost--d certainly give the students who look out the windows when they--apost--re bored something exciting to watch--exclaim-- lol. Probably get arrested for that though. Ooo...but then they bring in the handcuffs and that just starts a whole other bout of excitement. (for me at least)

Last Post: I don--apost--t have children, but I think I was about five when I got theexplanation. My mother was pregnant, and I started asking questions. Idid not learn the word penis --apost--till a couple of years later, so my mumused words I knew to explain the basic process, and that people did it--quote--because they love each other and it feels good--quote--.I don--apost--t think it was much later when I found condoms in my parents--apost--room (I was still young enough to crawl into their bed in themornings), and my father had a quite easy time of explaining what theywere for, since I already knew the technicalities.

Last Post: Ihave no problem with that idea. I--apost--d only want to do that in avery serious relationship and with someone I would want to marry in thefirst place. Nice to find out if there are any quirks but Iwouldn--apost--t call off a wedding because of those. I just want to bewith my lover so much that when I move to be with her I want her aroundas much as possible and marriage is my ultimate intention.Fireman

Last Post: I lean towards beutiful and --quote--cushiony--quote--. I think a woman should have curves anyhow and the straight figures the supermodels are sporting nowadays kinda makes me think they look like little boys. It kinda grosses me out, women with boyish figures.

Last Post: Lol bewayne--exclaim-- As for me, I--apost--ve had one guy who started off as a fuck buddy, but ended up just using me for sex. I--apost--ve just got another one, so I--apost--ll ahve to see how that goes. I enjoy having fuck buddies, generally for the reasons already mentioned, and believe that the deal on having them and boyfriend is exactly as Div stated.

Last Post: Yeah i understand we are probably all in basid agreement on the subjedt of the need to change something.And i didnt mean my rant to bedome arguementative diredtly at anyone in particular .But i do think after 30 or so years of hearing pres.after pres. and politician afterr politician say we are working on the problem as fast as we can it starts to pardon my language sound like a fucking lie.we have to start somewhere is getting pretty old to as is now is not the best time.but it always seems to be a good time to waste American boys lives over the aquisition of more oil.Or to open some more of the wilderness or seacoast heritage land for more oil.Tired of it is tired of it .We have been lied to long enough and if the American public deosnt start voting in the right people it will be to late.Unfortunately i cant say that the right people are even in a position to run for office. Why was it again that nader(granted a eanatic in his own way )not allowed to even run for the pres. office?Deo

Last Post: Only if they were doing it to be taking care of some need they may haveand even then maybe living in same house but an updtairs downstairs kinda thingThere is no age that isnt a generalitiy anyway and it probably is different for girls than boysUsed to be a girl stayed with her parents til she got m,arried and that wasnt that long agoIn my case if i was dating someone who was living with their parents it would probably be someone who moved back in after a divorce or something

Last Post: Yea, you do, Be--exclaim-- Now go forth and give her what you--apost--ve presented to us--exclaim-- (I really hope it goes great--exclaim--)

Last Post: I still think that there are women that a guy knows that, no matter what, he would never get with.

Last Post: Exactly, john--exclaim--

Last Post: That might work. Once she realizes that she--apost-- not getting the attention that she wants, she might forget about bugging me. I have to work with her for a little bit today. I--apost--ll see how it goes. lol. After yesterday, I wanted to strangle the woman (no, not literally, but you know what i mean)

Last Post: Yes I agree it was a while ago.Yes I agree in fact I woud find it probably unbearable.Yes the mind set has has changed that much in America. So I will on behalf of my generation <the hippie one -free love and all> accept your thanks for all that hard work of publicaly fucking everything in sight, that effected this change for you in less than two generations.HAHAHAHA lolol Your welcome folks hahaha

Last Post: Police don--apost--t really stay tuned to finding Dogging sites. LOL. If I came upon a couple with a crowd, heck yeah, I--apost--d watch. They want a crowd. And I--apost--m willing to be crowd for them. I guess they turn into public orgies. I am the type to try anything once. Public sex... well... I have. Sex on a sidewalk on a main road under a street light is pretty public. I didn--apost--t care at the time. It--apost--s part of my flawed personality. I want what I want when I want it. Plain and simple. I accept responsibility for my actions too though. If I was to have been arrested for it, well I see it as not getting away with it. For those couples that are dogging, cool, do what gets you hot. I don--apost--t judge.

Last Post: No way no how cannot work--exclaim-- nuf said from me.

Last Post: I suppose you could keep somewhat of a relationship Fuz. For example, an online relationship is just that, online chat, and sure it can develop into deeper emotions, but something like that would remain so until it--apost--s taken to the next level or eventually fade away. I think people still need that real, physical attention so an online relationship has to compete with that.

Last Post: LoL.. Well no it--apost--s not cheating if he--apost--s there and he--apost--s the one that promotes it--exclaim-- But if he--apost--s like my husband.. and he doesn--apost--t promote it at all and would never allow it.. then it--apost--s cheating. It really does depend on the person you--apost--re with I think.

Last Post: I don--apost--t think people as they get older are quicker to be attracted to people because of looks......I think its the opposite...but hey thats just me.......

Last Post: lol, awwww hon, I can--apost--t believe that. Like a car, you just need good lubricant and some TLC. I--apost--m sure you--apost--d purr just fine.

Last Post: If both are emotion and physiology are needed to satisfy then there are an awful lot of mis guided --quote--johns--quote-- being decieved by an awful lot of pretty expenive call girls.Sometimes we just need sex but most times we need comfort and support.

Last Post: and dying in the sorrow of a voice which tells meI love your hands.I will plant my hands in the gardenI will grow I know I know I knowand swallows will lay eggsin the hollow of my ink-stained fingers...

Last Post: bumpOne of the ways I make it known that I--apost--m not into a guy is when he--apost--s talking to me, I am looking everywhere else but at him, and doing the --quote--uh huh--quote--, --quote--oh--quote--, and --quote--is that right--quote-- comments. Then I pretend to see someone I know or have to use the bathroom, excuse myself, and not return.

Last Post: oh I never said bored.......Now where you--apost--re concerned.......I--apost--m afraid I--apost--d get lost and never want to come back

Last Post: Sea, he wasnt old but he didnt look like his pictures at all--exclaim-- I think those pictures belonged to at leas 10 years before. He was bad fat and ugly--exclaim-- But I did my best to stay nice while I was shocked by his appreance. Anyhow as we did agree before we head to his childhood neighborhood for walk. So we left my car in a parking lot and went with him to the place. It was a nice area actually. He told me --quote--why are bringing your purse? you can leave in car--quote-- and I was like--quote-- hmm.. thanks but I rather have it with me.--quote-- While walking I noticed he is silent. I asked him if something was wrong and he told me I insulted him by not leaving my purse bla bla bla...and not trusting him. So he said that he wanted to give me a ride back to my car and forget everything. Anyhow I was being just nice not telling him that I didnt like him, I really was pissed off. I actually was looking for that excuse so I said that I was sorry if insulted him and surely didn

Last Post: My best friend is dating a girl I am not fond of at all. I think she is using him, personally. I have told him time and time again, and I tihnk he sees it, but does not want to let go. She has a lot of issues and I think she uses him more as support than a boyfriend. The sad thing is, he is absolutley crazy about her. He and I have had so many conversations about the situation, and he always syas he will break up with her, but he never does. It--apost--s very frustrating, because I know he isn--apost--t happy.

Last Post: I--apost--ve always flirted with guys, but if I REALLY like someone, I have to tell them eventually. And I do it in person, never over the phone. Has always worked for me with good results.

Last Post: His eyes, shoulders and arms. I need to find them assuring and supporting.That--apost--s why I dont click with skinny guys.

Last Post: ass kissing or pops there gum while chewing or sounding like a damn cow when they eat

Last Post: hi, in 8 days ull be younger, but right now, nope ur not, so thats kinda cool--exclaim--

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Last Post: Thanx for all the help, i still dont know exactly what im going to do, but yeah, u guys have some great advice--exclaim-- and DE, im a girl, and i cant figure out how my thinggy says im a guy, and how to change it. so yeah, hes not gay, nor am i, but thanx again--exclaim--